Tori, I would go with the middle strategy and ask him more if he discloses more on that topic. Move slowly when it comes to asking him to elaborate. He knows you don't want to D, right? Maybe, the R is going well at the moment partly because he feels safer knowing that D is on the horizon.

He sends so many mixed signals. Must be very confusing for you.

Me: 51
H: 52
T: 23 yrs
M: 19 yrs
S18, D16, S14 (special needs)
PA: 2003/2004
Piecing: 2004 on
Suspect H had EA: 8/2012-12/2012