"I will need help formulating a reply at this point if he says he was planning on bringing her skiing. I have said that I don't want kids to meet her yet."

If he has agreed that is not in the kids best interest then you would need to stand firm on that Boundary.


Relax
Eat
Think
Act normal
React.. Smartly.
Do something different.
Emulate.
Do Work.

Lets get "RETARDED" in here.