Hey, everyone. There's something running through my mind and I wish I could ask my coach about it, but I won't have a chance to talk to her till the end of next month. So maybe you can help me figure it out.
My H had said in 2 instances that he doesn't want to "make us even more confused." And then there's that time when he said he was wondering if he was doing the right thing. If this happens again, should I prompt him to talk more about it, and then ask if he is confused enough to grant a delay to the D proceedings?
This could be a really bad idea, so I'm reluctant to do it. If I'm going to follow the "allowing" philosophy, I should just let the D happen (which is what I am doing.) If I ask this to my H, our current R might suffer. He might back away again to not give me "hope" and might stop sharing his feelings. But if I don't say anything, I feel that I might be missing a chance to avoid the D. I remember my coach's words about the WAS feeling that they can't change their minds bc "everyone knows" and the pressure from society is too big to overcome. At the same time, my H knows how I feel about our M, so if he really wanted to slow things down, he would've said something, right? He wouldn't be asking the L to get it done as soon as possible.
A middle of the range strategy would be to just ask him to elaborate on his feelings, and if I sense that he is really doubting his decision, ask if there is anything we could do to make him feel better about the process. Something to have the suggestion to come from himself, and if it doesn't happen, well, too bad.
Thoughts? I'm sure reading your takes on this will help.
Side info: He called today to talk about financial stuff and then we exchanged some texts--fun and positive. He told me what he's doing tonight (disclosing more) and called my mom again just to say hi. The current R is good. Don't want to spoil it.
