But I agree that 2yrs+ is daunting. Its funny how in the early days I thought the MLC tag gave some explanation/rationalisation and it made me feel more at ease with the sitch. Then I read up and oh do I not wish that now.
Right. In a non MLC situation fixing yourself usually leads to progress as the spouse takes notice and starts to believe in the new you. In a MLC crises situation nothing you do seems to help, because it really wasn't about you to begin with. There are plenty of things you can do to make it worse though.
So maybe you are right, the fact that things haven't gotten worse is probably the best I can hope for right now.
Really, the waiting is the hardest part... and there will be a lot of waiting for a spouse to work through their MLC.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
