My wife wants to separate

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SM34 you asked for my input on what women want or are looking for and I'm just one woman, yes there are similarities but with wide variation. The best thing for you to do is get to know and understand your W. Often we think we know our Ss but really we just see what we want to see.

After the first couple of years of marriage we tend to go on autopilot, on both sides.

Lots of posters have given you good advice keep the focus on you and work on what you can control...you. Find the things that work for you and concentrate on those. Too much advice can be counter-productive.

GH31 has given you some good things to think about. I haven't read the books he suggests but if they help you, great.

Here's an example of where I disagree, smashing a child's toy with a sledge hammer. That to me shows a level of anger and violence that would be unacceptable to me. No matter the circumstance, it is intimidation.

Good luck.