Almost Over...

[Dewayne]

Well. Christmas sucked. Was ok toward the end. Wife came to pick up the JoJo and she hung for a bit. Even though it was sleeting and snowing she stayed and we chatted a bit.

Some truth was in there but I could definitely see she's hiding. I spent a few hours with my mom and family at her house for the holiday and we spoke for about an hour. SHe told me she believed her to be "dating" this Jerry friend of hers. He's a 21 yo (she's 28)skinny, scrawny kid that looks like he's 13. "he's funny, I love him to death" is one of th phrases she's said. She's 5'11" and wears heels. This dude is like 5'6".

So my daughter was playing with me and being silly and well long story short she ends up telling me "mommy kissed Jerry" SO I asked her about it and she shook her head while looking down and I knew she did. She lied when she said "no. We are 'talking' about things" So this tells me she's seeing him. I asked her to be honest and she wasn't. I know she won't be happy with this guy. I've known her for 11 years, I cna tell you lol.

I just don't know what to do now. I feel she is part WAW and MLC. The way she talks about getting her life in order, not being happy with where we were etc. I know she's enjoying not being tied down, although she says she's not "enjoying being single" Said she "Doesn't want a relationship" etc. I know.... she likes being single. (still married tech....)

I know the smart move for me would be to cut her loose. But what do you do when you can't? When you still love her so much? I know she can come out of this and be herself again, so what do I do? Carefully try? Leave her alone?

She keeps asking me to go to the movies with her. Is this her trying to reach? I asked her "why" I know I shouldn't have but I did and she said "I'm just trying to be nice" ... again remember I told her not to be nice and do things to just be "nice"

someone said to accept it because even though she SAYS it's being nice, she's not wanting to admit wanting to go to the movies with me. I don't know.