Next Step, Moving On

[dorightman]

Some of it is true, but only during rough patches. She makes it sound like the entire 16 years together was like this. It wasn't. There were good times and bad times like any relationship. There was a few years that I fell into depression due to financial struggles and my fathers death. I did say some mean things during this time and I did hermit myself . We grew apart, but she planned an escape while I have been trying to revive our R.
I'am still trying, but it feels like she is stubbornly pursuing a D. I'am into the second month of separation. I will give her the three months and by the end of February I will reevaluate my position.
I made all the mistakes in the past 4 months, and I'am finally strong enough to not get emotional in front of her again. ( I HOPE!)
All of my family are telling me to cut the rope and move on with my life. I still want to save my marriage, but am aware that she must too otherwise it's useless.
Merry Christmas to all !