Thanks RLA, Merry Christmas to you too! I tried the compassion this for so long, and still do but she gets more angry at it than anything. Doesn’t trust it as genuine I guess and does not want to feel feelings. To me it all starts with kindness but she clearly does not want to start anything. I agree how draining it is. Keeping up with 180 and LRT. She sees that s hostile too. No matter what I do, she is done. So she should let the anger go….she’s getting what she wants. It is cold, 34 degrees F but not much snow. Just a little to cover the grass, so at least a whitish Christmas.  d10 was happy about that.
M17 yrs. me49 xW47 d15 d11
BD1-Jul/11(Affair found out) Therapy 9 months (tried 2) BD2- May/12(sep) Court Jul/13 - I got 50/50 Sold home - Aug/13 Court #2 - Dec/13 Court#3 - Apr/14 ... She lost again We settled.
