Regretful, I am so glad you are doing the hard work and I admire you for it. You are being heard, you are worthy and you are loved. All of us on this board hear you every day. We hear what you say, what you are trying to say and what you leave unsaid.
So, if we can hear you, so can others. You leave a lot unsaid when you speak out of anger and frustration,but we have all been there so we recognize it and we challenge you to say what you really meant.
When you called husband azzhole, you meant to say, "I feel you do not value my opinions and my priorities and it makes me either ignore what you want or lash out. I am going to explain next time something is important to me and why and you can say why it is important to you (to leave exactly at 11) and hopefully we can compromise"
I mean, in a perfect world, hard conversation and probably wouldn't go well at first, but maybe you could say why laundry was important, enlist kids help, ask H to help etc. if they don't fine...but my H is also passive aggressive and I am more let it all out then "So, what do you guys want for supper...?"
All I know is that kind of P.A. behaviour tends to build up inside and make the next confrontation worse...
