The house is for sale. So sad, Family is breaking.

[FloydMan]

My d10 was saying good night to me and I told her I love her and I am sorry that things are not working out with her mom and I. She said "we have to help her find her way back to love daddy." I said "I am not sure that is possible." She said "yes, like in the bible about the lost sheep." I said "so you think your mom is the lost sheep?" she said "yes. but her love is too. It is lost in all the anger." My daughter was referring to Matthew 18:12-14. I knew she was looking at my Grandmother's old bible the other day flipping through it but had no idea she was really reading and absorbing it. Jesus' parable about the lost sheep is a piece of beauty. My daughter is beautiful.

[mamabird]

That is amazing that your daughter picked up on that - I wonder if someone talked to her about it?

I know my children are very concerned about the future with me and H. It is so sad for them. I only hope that one day they can see both me and their dad being happy again (together or apart) and that they will get to be part of a strong healthy marriage.

[JuneReN]

Hi Floyd...greetings from east of the 401

Your D sounds amazing . Hang in there, I imagine the holidays are not an easy time for your wife either, right now.

I realize dinner was a bit of a balm for your ego and psyche, but you have to ask yourself, what was your motivation here?

[FloydMan]

Thansk RLA ...No, nobody talks to her about faith other than me and we go to church. She was reading it she said. It is Matthew 18:12-14 and Also Luke 15. Read the parable if you can. It is amazing. Jesus' put a lot of faith in sinners and was criticized for it. This is the foundation of forgiveness.
I really hope your family can be restored. Mine too, but looks doubtful.

[FloydMan]

Hi rubytuesday,
She is amazing. W is being very angry and we had it out last night. I had tried to talk to her for 2 weeks regarding making sure we did not duplicate presents for the kids. Well, we did, and of course all my fault she says. If I did not force the issue last night after seeing both our wrapped gifts were the same size and shape and weight, then d10 would have been disappointed tomorrow. I told her what I was getting several days ago and she refused to tell me. Of course I am the one scrambling today to get another gift for d10 and sucked it up as I always do. I managed though and came through. W does not have to make the holidays difficult, but she is sure acting like she is…especially in front of the kids. She is so nasty.
I accepted the dinner offer from this lady strictly for the ego and psyche balm only….and of course for the company and GAL. I can’t go further. I have had the chance and opportunities over the past months with others. I just can’t cross the line, even though W has.
East of 401? You Canadian like me?

[FloydMan]

First time in 19 years not together for Christmas. First time not with my kids at Christmas Eve. This [censored]. It is soooo wrong. A little lonely. I think I bought too much with the kids (for here). I don't think I am getting very much, if at all. There is too much hate in her. She has been particularily nasty the past few days. The example set for the kids is terrible.

[JuneReN]

Hi rubytuesday,
She is amazing. W is being very angry and we had it out last night. I had tried to talk to her for 2 weeks regarding making sure we did not duplicate presents for the kids. Well, we did, and of course all my fault she says. If I did not force the issue last night after seeing both our wrapped gifts were the same size and shape and weight, then d10 would have been disappointed tomorrow. I told her what I was getting several days ago and she refused to tell me. Of course I am the one scrambling today to get another gift for d10 and sucked it up as I always do. I managed though and came through. W does not have to make the holidays difficult, but she is sure acting like she is…especially in front of the kids. She is so nasty.
I accepted the dinner offer from this lady strictly for the ego and psyche balm only….and of course for the company and GAL. I can’t go further. I have had the chance and opportunities over the past months with others. I just can’t cross the line, even though W has.
East of 401? You Canadian like me?

I understand about the line. I was just reading a post by sandi and she reminded someone that the S is done long before they leave and we should expect the worst always. Prepare for it, and protect yourself and children. I don't want a divorce, but I tell you, I have the papers ready to go if I need to. I want my H back, but not at the expense of me or my kids. It will get worse before it gets better and you will not recognize this woman because the one you knew left a long time ago.

Yup....Canadian....about six hours east of you my friend. Merry Christmas and all the best

[FloydMan]

Thanks RT- Well I guess I should not have expected her to be honest with me if she can't be honest with herself or her family and friends. Yes, she is a completely different woman. Turned very selfish. Scary.
Hope your sitch gets better. Hard to believe it can get vworse. I thought rock bottom was some time ago.
All the best to you this Christmas RubyTuesday.

[JuneReN]

Oh Honey, what I have learned is it can always get worse..lol! Hasn't reading on here taught you anything :P?

But, we don't have to become worse with it, and that, my friend, is the really cool thing about DB.

You are absolutely right...if you cannot be honest with yourself, you cannot be authentic with others. But, some people never get to that place, Floyd.

Merry Christmas and give the Ds a huge Christmas hug

[mamabird]

Floyd, wishing you a merry Christmas. I hope you and the children have a lovely time today. I'm sure it's cold and snowy and beautiful where you are.

One thing I'm trying to do (without success a lot of the time, but still trying) is to funnel all the resentment I have towards my H into compassion for him. Maybe this would work for you towards your W. She sounds like she could use a little compassion right now.