Sigh. I see it now. I see how my unwillingness to commit to "Yes, I promise to be ready at 11" was passive-aggressive. Actually it was a lovely evening.
This is great! You can only control you, and just because someone is an ass to you, or an ass in general doesn't mean you have to behave in a reactionary way.
Originally Posted By: RegretfulLA
I wondered if H maybe had softened up a bit, so I grabbed his hand on a whim during the drive up. He made a face and said, "No thank you", so I immediately stopped and that was that.
That is really crappy, but I guess expected at this point. I would expect H to behave as most WAS at this point and he'll likely continue to treat you bad in an effort to make you show him why leaving is the right path. Recognize it and refuse to feed it.
Originally Posted By: RegretfulLA
Spending some time now reviewing my old journal - back from the OM1 days. This was nearly 4 years ago now, but my issues w H haven't changed.
I think this is a good idea. I also recommend reading your threads here and re-reading DR. As your state of mind changes, I find that I see different things in DR.
I'm glad you enjoyed your evening...keep it going!
