well I got a call this morning from my WAW mother. We talk all the time but not so early. first i was thinking there is a problem with my WAW . But there was nothing really wrong. What she wanted was the 2nd set of keys to my WAW car. My WAW could not find hers i guess. I hated to give them to her as the car is still in my name and wanted to keep the keys just in case i needed to take the car back. But i gave them to her mom. I could not do anything else.
Im still sitting here at home and I'm still so upset about the text message we had the other day. The one were she was angry at me for some reason.
Now I have her mom stropping over to talk to me and I dont know why. But I think it is about the texting last week. Why is my WAW trying to make me so mad unset and alot of other feeling i cant identify yet.
I just feel like what has happened has made my waw move away even more. But i did find out one thing. I think that one of WAW girlfriends said something to her that i was over at there house watching football with her good friend and WAW brother. I was invited by him. However I have no idea what she said but im sure whatever it was it was not good. This same person was so very nice to me and has always been.
It is just one thing i can think of. My WAW just does not want me around her family ever. But I have never been the one to go to there house with out them asking me first. Also they stop by my house all the time. I think WAW thinks Im inviting them over and whatever.
again all i feel today is like i lost everything i have been working on. all this due to one of WAW friends.
I dont know how to say what just happen but i can say im not doing well at all now!!!!!!!!!
I guess my WAW texted her mom the other day and asked if she spends a lot of time with me. the mom said well I clean his house and i do talk to him but I never talk about you. she said that WAW was very mad that her family spends time with me. My WAW wants her family to stop all contact with me. My WAW mom said to her that if you want a divorce then just ask for it. She said I did already. Here is the thing she did and i replied not saying yes or no.
It just tells me that I think she still wants a divorce. But yet if she did then why is she not doing the things she needs to to make it happen. Why does she give me small things that i see as a little hope.
It is like she is dwelling on things so much that she is making things up in her head....
I told me mother in law that to this day I have no idea why she left. Then she said that my WAW was thinking i was tracking her.. for what i have no idea. But i know this stems from the one day i cought her in a lie. she said she was one place and she was not she was in some other place.
I dont know what to do here. I do not want a divorce at all and i will not file. I am just so confused and dont understand what is going on. This is all just to me such a big setback for me. im doing what i can to hold it together but not easy at all.
I have done nothing to my WAW that would make her so off the wall. Her mom is so angry at her as well. She told me that WAW day is coming. Meaning she is going to give WAW a peace of her mind.
Who do I still go on? What can I do to make things better? Why is this happening? Why is WAW not willing to talk to me? why is she not willing to work things out?
Those are the things I think about all the time and more.
LF, you really need to detach from W's goofy actions. You cannot control what she says or does. There is no point in asking why she is acting like this, she just is. You cannot make things better with her. The only thing you can do is make your life without her better. Put the focus on YOU.
Of course you did nothing wrong by staying in contact with her family, which is your family also. But WAW does not see it that way. She sees it as everyone is against her, because that's easier than accepting responsibility for her actions.
Mom telling her how she feels about all this will be your fault too. There really is no way you can change W's perception of this, so somehow you have to stop trying and let it go.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
I do understand what your saying and Yes some how I need to completely let this go some how. I just know the W's action are wrong but nothing i can do about it. I also know she has her friends that are feeding into her. Yes saying things that are not true just to make her feel she is the good one.
So yes I need to try to let go and that will be my goal for the new year if not sooner...
all this just does not stop the hurt in my heart for me and for my W..
be thankful my mil cussed me out for making her daughter cheat on me. then told me our adult son that caught her cheating is actually mad at me and projecting his anger onto his mom. mil has been divorced three times and hates all men. so be thankful for the positives in your lives. there are plenty just look around.
I guess you are correct. and I know i have a lot to be thankful for. But all that does not take the hurt away.
You know the thing i really miss is spoiling my W, I am a hopeless romantic..
The one thing that is on my mind now is should i say merry christmas to my WAW? I gave her mother a card to give to her. I just know she is very angry at this point. So me saying anything is going to taken bad im sure.
I realy just want to see if she says thank you first or merry christmass first. I just dont know what way to go now
You know the thing i really miss is spoiling my W, I am a hopeless romantic.. The one thing that is on my mind now is should i say merry christmas to my WAW? I gave her mother a card to give to her. I just know she is very angry at this point. So me saying anything is going to taken bad im sure.
I realy just want to see if she says thank you first or merry christmass first. I just dont know what way to go now
I don't see why you wouldn't say merry christmas to your W. You say it to coworkers, the mailman and even strangers, right?
Honestly LF, it seems no matter what you do or say you're in a no win situation with your W, wouldn't you agree? So why fret over it? Just do what you want and move forward.
Oh, and Merry Christmas to you and those close to you.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
Yes these days It does look like no matter what i do i get the short end of the stick. Yes I Love my W however she is being very strange to me and even her family.
Ok so I know she got the card and yes i did give her the Pink tickets. Now the day is almost over and I have got not text or anything from her.
I think things are going to come to a head after the holidays with my W. I also think well know that it is going to come to a head with her mom Has well. my W's mom has had it with her....
Do you think that maybe my W is going threw a mid life thing?
It is just her actions and thoughts are so not like her at all.. It is not just to me too it is to her family. It was just a thought.
I have been waiting all day to see if W would step up and say merry Christmas. but nothing. so At around8 or 9 i will send the text wishing her a merry Christmas..
Can I be honest here i just dont even feel like wishing her anything. She has to much anger inside her about what i do not know. But I dont want to wake up tomorrow and feel like [censored] for not wishing her a merry Christmas.
