It is very difficult to answer the WHY answer to our sitch's, so even though I do ask myself that, I've tried NOT to too much b/c it doesn't make a lot of sense.
rose, my H TOLD me about his EA after 6 months under the radar---I really had NO clue that this was a possibility, as I couldn't believe HE would EVER do this to me. We had a good M, so I thought.
I'm not saying your H is involved w OP, but it IS possible. Even if he is not, he is living a DOUBLE life, similar to my H. He has his CAKE w you & family then he goes to his own condo to live & breathe in HIS space.
I agree you have to GAL. Me too. It isn't easy. In fact I agree that it's the hardest thing we'll ever do. You have actually been doing this far LONGER than I but I do know it takes the patience of a saint.
I tell myself often to take the higher ground, live "as if.." (as if life might not include H in the future, at least as my H). With children involved he will always be part of your life.
At some point you have to decide what YOU want. Are you willing to wait indefinitely, or just for now? Would it help to establish more specific boundaries for YOU? Would it help to give yourself a timeline?
Good luck, rose, this isn't easy!
M- 18 T-21 S-14,11 & 10 BD 6-18-2012 (OW-EA) H moved out 11-3-2012 10-5-13 Me- I want a divorce. I want to move on w my life. 11-25-13 Jointly filed.
