As I keep saying, your sitch seems to change so quickly. I know how fed up you are with your H. It's as if you've been starved in your R for years and I'm not surprised that you're needing to do something different.
I can also understand your H's annoyance with you folding laundry though. He had made it really clear that he wanted to leave by 11 and it sounds as if you didn't take that seriously. I'm like that when I get stressed in that I really want people to be ready to leave when we are meant to leave. I would be really annoyed if my H showed signs of not being ready at 11 if I'd made it clear that that was when I wanted us to leave. Even you saying that you would 'try to be ready' would be enough to set me off.
While in most of the instances that you relate I can see why you're upset, in this one, I can see why he is. I hope you don't think that I'm having a go at you because that's not my intention. It's just how I see it from my perspective. It nearly sounds as if you had already decided not to be ready by 11. It looks like a power struggle.
You say that you are ready to move on and yet you seem very caught up in him being wrong. I'd somehow expect that to be less the case as you detach, but maybe the feelings of wanting to move on and him being wrong strengthen each other.
I hope you manage to have as good a Christmas as possible, Regretful. I'm sure you won't end up being single so you definitely don't need to stay with your H for that reason. I'm not sure though that any R will in itself be the source of happiness. I'm sure you know that too. Hang in there.
Me: 51 H: 52 T: 23 yrs M: 19 yrs S18, D16, S14 (special needs) PA: 2003/2004 Piecing: 2004 on Suspect H had EA: 8/2012-12/2012
