What do you mean by 'messed up big time'? Hang in there. There was a time (8 years ago) when my H wanted both me and OW. In the end, OW forced him to choose and he chose us but was very depressed for months.
Me: 51 H: 52 T: 23 yrs M: 19 yrs S18, D16, S14 (special needs) PA: 2003/2004 Piecing: 2004 on Suspect H had EA: 8/2012-12/2012
