My wife wants to separate

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I mean she said don't get me anything. Is that a trap?

Possibly.

Is it guilt?

Possibly.

I know OM got her something for sure.

Possibly. So what?

Also I bet he got something for our daughter. What do u do when that comes up?

Man this touched a raw nerve with me.

You tell her in a firm, gentle and resolute voice "W, that gift will not be in this house. If it isn't out of here in the next half an hour I'm taking a sledge hammer to it". And then you follow through and do what you said you would do.

Some posters here would disagree with me here and that's their right.

However, I will remind you. I have never seen a single man with a cheating wife win her back by being supplicating, accommodating, meek and appeasing.

Not one.

It didn't work with Hitler in WWII and it won't work with your wife either. When you read those books I recommended to you it will all make sense. Everything is a test of what you will and will not put up with.

Get her a gift if you want to. For your reasons and not to seek her approval. Make sure it's one you know without doubt that she would love. Say "W, I wanted you to have this.". You know her far better than OM and have a huge advantage there.