Thank you for taking the time to write such a heartfelt and honest post. Really, thank you. It's like a Christmas Present!
AJ, I had no idea you had so much going on, thank you for sharing.
It's clear what kind of man you are, and how much you mean to your family. You being there for those that need you in such stressful times. And I bet you just pull it off without a glitch, smiling and comforting to all.
I've been in the position of being conservator and guardian for my grandmother when my mother unexpectedly died 7 years ago. After a few years I eventually handed that responsibility over to my Aunt. My grandmother is 92, and amazingly still alive. She's not in as good as shape as your grandfather. Her dementia is full blown, and she no longer can walk, and needs to be fed. But what's so beautiful about seeing her, is that even though she can't hardly articulate the words, she knows it's me. Seeing that is the best gift my grandma could ever give me in this lifetime.
I like the idea of "not having the bandwith to communicate" . This is how I feel about my XH now. I too have tried to co parent. I too have swallowed my pride, let things pass and just busted butt to get along. Yet in the long run all it gets me is the same insanity no matter how hard I tried to be the bigger person .
All in all, like you AJ who would've thought I'd have to leave the XH after he was the one that left me. But that's how its working for me. And truthfully this is the hardest thing I've ever had to do but I know it's what has to be done. As long as he continues to fly on his magic carpet ride of denial and projection, there is nothing left.
At any rate, on a happier note, I got to spend the day doing last minute shopping yesterday for the girls. It was nice. I still might do a little today if I get the chance.They will spend tonight with their Dad and come back tomorrow. I do have to work tomorrow. The perk of that is, I get paid time and a half, and get Prime Rib for lunch tomorrow at work. Not half bad. I still get to come home in the early afternoon, and then spend the rest of Christmas with the girls.
