No, I believe hers, without her actually taking the quiz - I'll try and ask her to take the quiz next time she calls or texts... but I BELIEVE hers are acts of service, and words of afformation. She gets really excite to see me with a weed eater in my hands.
That is REALLY good advice though MKB. I can perform acts of service for her, and distance myself at the same time. Like, if she's spending time with the kids, take her (usually dirty) car and wash it... without demanding hugs or anything else in return. It does make some sense... because I do work, a LOT, and I do some stuff for her and with her, but I could do a LOT more. More dishes, more laundry... Okay, my brain is running on overdrive now, must remember quiet and distance though.
Speaking of distance. I emailed her saying, I want space too, the separation isn't a bad thing, I need to work on trust issues with her, and so on... and she spends a couple hours last night texting me. Talking mostly about the kids, but also how she's going to bake me a pumpkin pie with my D13 because that's my favorite.
(I'm just doing a stream of thought thing here)
I think she likes the pursuit. I remember when we started dating, she chased me pretty hard. It wasn't until well after we were married that I really 'gave in' and there wasn't any pursuit after that... and we've had periodic problems of one sort or another since. I mean, I went all in because that's what I thought I was supposed to do... I didn't want her to think for a moment that there was a chance in HE!! that there was a possiblity that I my love was in doubt...
... maybe that doubt is what she needs???
Not that I need to stop loving her and being faithful, but in order to win the 'war', quit the fight???
I don't know... I only slept for a few hours last night and I could be going loco.
