I think you want to be her Daddy. She's a fully grown, functional woman and I'll bet she's more than capable of handling her own life. Allow her to deal with her life.
You will know if she needs your help because she will ask for it.
You fret a lot about what she's going to do or not going to do on Christmas day. That kind of thing used to drive me crazy too but I found that if I didn't worry about what other people were doing and just let life happen, it was far more enjoyable.
In doing the above you are again making opthers responsible for your happiness.
I do wish you a Merry Christmas.
Wipe that worried look off your face and smile.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss