Kimmerz, You've been doing a lot of thinking lately and yes, your aunt is spot on. They are nothing more than roommates and they tend to fill a void or need for each other. I can't tell you the number of times I was told that they act like roommates versus lovers or a real couple. They can't stand to be alone. If the op is not w/them, they will find someone else to do things w/them. They very seldom do things alone. They are just using each other and when the well is dry, that is when the real "fun" begins for them. That's when we need to step way back and allow them to see each other in the light of day, warts and all.
Yes, we do have the power to control and manipulate according to them. If that were the case, we wouldn't be where we are today dealing w/mlc. Yes, it is entirely projection and it takes them a very long time to see the light.
Please leave the mlc monster outside for the next couple of days and enjoy the holidays w/your family. Hopefully after the holidays your xh will settle down and you will have little or no contact w/him.
Merry Christmas!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
