H has always said he is not leaving me but has also said he can't leave her. It is devestating to hear them talk or text in my presence, got to the point I couldn't take it- hence the ultimatum. Not the best thing to do but felt I had no choice.was going insane. I was starting to seriously resent him and was constantly angry, the kids know I am not happy but not about the OW. I told him I couldn't take it, I was at my breaking point. I know I can't live with her in my life, and also know the damage it would do to our kids -Divorce would crush them. They are resultant yes, but thier dreams of thier dad would be shattered. I am going to do the detachment - LRT. if only for my piece of mind.i don't want to get to the point of me hating him and filing
