My wife wants to separate

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I guess I need to look at my wife's secondary love language? I think that would be "Words of Affirmation" too. She has a self esteem issue stemming from gaining weight after our baby, and I don't tell her she looks great often enough or with enough passion. But that was the reason she told me she was leaving, and the reason OM was better than me. His words make her feel incredible. So if I start now, only 3 weeks since bomb, isn't that entirely too obvious? I read somewhere not to try to impress her yet, because she is not ready to be impressed by you so early in the journey. Can we expand on these ideas? GH31 to the rescue!!