BD1-Jul/11(Affair found out) Therapy 9 months (tried 2) BD2- May/12(sep) Court Jul/13 - I got 50/50 Sold home - Aug/13 Court #2 - Dec/13 Court#3 - Apr/14 ... She lost again We settled.
I'm answering your post on my thread about your dinner plans...
So, that's a pretty big red flag. Part of you knows that it's a big F U to your wife, and guess what, you don't care. You're doing it, in part, to spite her, in part, to see if you still got it.
I'd advise you to think really carefully about what you want here.
Now, your W is pretty much out the door at this point. I don't blame you for wanting to keep company with someone else. It's tempting. It could push her further towards D, just want to point that out to you, but if you keep it to just dinner, you may be ok, given the circumstances.
Clearly it would be inappropriate if all were well, but all is not well. Only you can decide if this is the right move for you or not.
Me54, H53 M 23, T 25 S20, S18 BD: April 2024 Moved out: August 2024
Love means not giving up on someone even if they've given up on you.
"Being right is the booby prize of life." - Susan Page
Thanks RLA...it was just dinner. Clearly this woman who is good looking, athletic and actually a lit of fun is looking for a relationship. I am nowhere near that. She seems interested in me and we had some good laughs. I was on my game so to speak, felt comfortable and I do think I still have it. She knows my sitch and wants to get together again. I would rather get my W into that situation with me but would the tension and walking on eggshells make a mess of it. Anyway, W is not interested in giving me that kind of time. Nice to know I can relax and have fun with a nice lady though.
M17 yrs. me49 xW47 d15 d11
BD1-Jul/11(Affair found out) Therapy 9 months (tried 2) BD2- May/12(sep) Court Jul/13 - I got 50/50 Sold home - Aug/13 Court #2 - Dec/13 Court#3 - Apr/14 ... She lost again We settled.
BD1-Jul/11(Affair found out) Therapy 9 months (tried 2) BD2- May/12(sep) Court Jul/13 - I got 50/50 Sold home - Aug/13 Court #2 - Dec/13 Court#3 - Apr/14 ... She lost again We settled.
Would you have taken this woman to dinner if things had been better with your W? Just curious... Glad you had fun and were able to keep a clear head. You're doing great given all the crap that's going on for you.
Me54, H53 M 23, T 25 S20, S18 BD: April 2024 Moved out: August 2024
Love means not giving up on someone even if they've given up on you.
"Being right is the booby prize of life." - Susan Page
Thanks RLA. No I would not have gone to dinner. Maybe coffee and a business chat as we are in the same line of work. But knowing she has an interest in me I would have backed off. I have ben in that situation before with women at work and outside and backed of from the flirts.
M17 yrs. me49 xW47 d15 d11
BD1-Jul/11(Affair found out) Therapy 9 months (tried 2) BD2- May/12(sep) Court Jul/13 - I got 50/50 Sold home - Aug/13 Court #2 - Dec/13 Court#3 - Apr/14 ... She lost again We settled.
W freaked on me about the 50th Anniversary card I sent her parents. Went ballistic on me. I think it is clear she gets pressure from them.
M17 yrs. me49 xW47 d15 d11
BD1-Jul/11(Affair found out) Therapy 9 months (tried 2) BD2- May/12(sep) Court Jul/13 - I got 50/50 Sold home - Aug/13 Court #2 - Dec/13 Court#3 - Apr/14 ... She lost again We settled.
The tension before the Holidays. She is so bitter. Any peep and the tension rises. So stupid.
M17 yrs. me49 xW47 d15 d11
BD1-Jul/11(Affair found out) Therapy 9 months (tried 2) BD2- May/12(sep) Court Jul/13 - I got 50/50 Sold home - Aug/13 Court #2 - Dec/13 Court#3 - Apr/14 ... She lost again We settled.
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