My wife wants to separate

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GH31 you are the man! PLEASE stop by and talk to me as often as you can. It is nice to hear these things from people who have been in this situation before.

So you don't think my situation is different? It sure feels different! However, when my wife first dropped the bomb, this was the exact convo:

Wife: hey we have to talk, there is someone else

Me: WHAT??? REALLY??

Wife: Yes. I am sorry, I don't know why I am having these feelings. I feel like I want to ask you for 6 months off from our marriage so I can figure out if this marriage is what I want, or the OM.

ME: And for 6 months you will "date" this guy and then what about our marriage? What about our daughter?

Wife: I don't know. I am so confused. He makes me feel incredible.


EXACT WORDS. I can still hear them in my head loud and clear. he makes me feel incredible! I need to figure out how to make her feel incredible. I'm going to buy the books you recommended tomorrow. I think I will start with the "Attraction isn't a choice" because that sounds like it will give the secret of attraction, which is what I need QUICKLY.

By the way, my W was "on the fence" about the whole EA until she had an intervention with her best girl friends who have only known her a few years and dont know me at all. She came home from that meeting and brought on the D and all that BS. She hadnt even been talking to this guy but just 2 weeks! As Michele says in DR, The Biased Shoulder! It is so powerful to someone who is looking for approval or validation of their sitch.