My wife wants to separate

[GH31]

GH31, I have ready most of your posts and those of David and Jack_three_beans and while they are full if tips and pointers, I cannot help but feel all 3 stories are similar in one way and different to mine.

There's another "rule" you'll discover soon enough in addition to Rule #1 All Cheaters Lie.

That's Rule #2 which is Almost Every Betrayed Husband Thinks His Situation is Unique.

Here's an exercise in deductive logic for you:

50% of first marriages end in divorce.

70% of all divorces are initiated by women.

Conclusion: 35% of all males who tie the knot in the English speaking world will be left by their wives.

That is millions of men SM34.

Believe me there is nothing unique about your situation, or mine, David's, Nathan's, Denver's, Jack's, Deep's, Starsky's etc.

In all 3 sitch's it seems your wives had expressed willingness to work on M from quite early on.

When was your bomb, SM34?

My wife is very strong willed and is not the indecisive type.

I said this to you on an earlier post and will say it again. You do not know your wife anymore.. She ceased to exist when her adultery started and won't "be herself" again until/unless that stops.

BTW, I heard the exact same thing from my wife regarding indecision. "I'm not normally like this GH31..."

I am no were near done fighting, but my sitch ultimately needs the reality stick to hit my W hard.

Yes. You can't do the Reality Stick's work but you can get in its way.

Let the Stick do its flogging.

She is in a fantasy that cannot work out, but her lack of life experience is blinding her. I have things I need to improve of.course but I feel strongly that I in order for her to.come around she is going to need a big dose of reality. Any thoughts or opinions on this contrast of.sitch?

All of the above.

Let the Reality Stick get to work and you get to work on correcting all your thoughts, beliefs, attitudes and world view which led to commit your own marital crimes over the last several years.

Hang in there SM34.

GH31