Andrew, what I meant was to be love. Love to yourself, first and foremost, and that will spread to everyone else. Which brings me to YOUR night out. When is it happening? Make sure you schedule it. And sorry if I continue sounding too new-agey, but don't see this a "fighting" for your marriage, but "moving toward" happiness in your union with your W.
Your frustration? Understandable. But the worst it's over for the most part.
Your present sounds very thoughtful and loving--a reflection of you :-)
Hang in there, Andrew. You're doing well. Just remember to take care of yourself.
