FY Yes I am sure I can find someone and the more I think about it the more I just may do it even if I go alone. I don't have a problem with doing that. But I know I could fine someone
I hope You have a very merry Christmas
Let me ask this Is it wrong to feel ok or good that your WAW is having a hard time and even mad (misdirected at me but i know the truth). I just think it is wrong to feel good about it. But I do, Not that i want bad things for her at all.
Just chiming in w my two-cents. I don't think it's bad for you to feel ok/good that your WAW is having a hard time. It means she is struggling/confused, which means that she doesn't know what she wants.
I agree w FY, go to the PINK concert! I'd go w you, as a friend, just to help you out, you know...! (I don't even like PINK either!) Have some fun already!
M- 18 T-21 S-14,11 & 10 BD 6-18-2012 (OW-EA) H moved out 11-3-2012 10-5-13 Me- I want a divorce. I want to move on w my life. 11-25-13 Jointly filed.
Let me ask this Is it wrong to feel ok or good that your WAW is having a hard time and even mad (misdirected at me but i know the truth). I just think it is wrong to feel good about it. But I do, Not that i want bad things for her at all.
Yes, I think it's wrong to feel good that they are feeling pain.
But I also think it is ok to feel some validation that you and your marriage were not necessarily a failure after all. The grass wasn't greener on the other side of the fence, so to speak. Since you don't wish any hard times on her, I think this is more where you are.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
I think you said it better. Maybe it is not that i am happy she is having a hard time. But more so There is some validation for me that like you said the gray being greener on the other side.
I truly do not wish harm on anyone. That is how I am and always have been. Even when WAW was home and we still did not get along at the end I still did nothing but good for her. I am the type of person that just always wants the best for all. If I have the means and the other person does not and truly needs the help. well Im there to help, On top of that I try to do all this helping with out the other person knowing who did it. It give me joy to see maybe I have made some one just a little bit happier.
Well Still on the fence with the tickets but if I keep them I would love to bring you turlegirl. HEHE anyway Have some baking to get done and not realy in the mood for it.
(I don't even like PINK either!) Have some fun already!