Sunny, Here are a few suggestions: a CD of her favorite music, scarf and gloves, her favorite house plant, has she mentioned any books that she might be interested in purchasing?
There are any number of non-personal things you can get her.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
