Sort of. Better for her to cope? But if she can't cope why go through this? What do you mean it is change? In your sitch did the hate and anger go away and if so how did you help with that and where are you now? Did they come back aboard. She just fought now again with my D10 and she came crying to me. The W cannot put up with her and I deal with the tears and frustration. W treats her now like she treats me and spoils D14.

M17 yrs.
me49
xW47
d15
d11

BD1-Jul/11(Affair found out)
Therapy 9 months (tried 2)
BD2- May/12(sep)
Court Jul/13 - I got 50/50
Sold home - Aug/13
Court #2 - Dec/13
Court#3 - Apr/14 ... She lost again
We settled.