Trying really hard to be Thankful today...

[Sweetbriar]

I had to come on tonight and release some anger....it was a bad night for my poor kids and they dont deserve this:( H picked them up at 4:45pm and took them to his parents house. They started texting me immediately about how awkward it was and that they wanted to come home. Well, apparently, while opening presents D14 made a comment to H that he didnt like and he got mad. Well, between this comment and other little things, D14 got upset. She started crying and went into the bathroom to calm down. My other D11 got upset at this point and was worried about her sister...so she started texting me about what was going on. (I was out with girlfriends and getting ready to go out to dinner too!)

I asked what was going on and if everything was okay and D11 said NO and that they wanted to come home. I still didnt know what was going on and why the crying was taking place, but next thing I know, they are on their way home. I guess D14 started having a panic attack in the car and H started screaming at her (NOT the thing to do when anyone is in middle of an anxiety attack) and I start getting more texts from D11 saying that dad is yelling at D14 and that D11 was scared. Next thing I know, H calls me and asks where I am and that D14 is having an attack and he is bringing her home. I asked him what happened and he said that he doesnt know, but that D started crying and then wanted to go home and that she was saying she missed me and it wasnt the same without me there. Then he adds in that D insulted him in front of his family. (thats important..geez...D is sitting next to you in the car having an panic attack and you have to make sure to mention that she insulted you???)

So, I head home from my dinner and was about 5 minutes behind them..so the girls had gone inside and HE DIDNT EVEN WAIT WITH THEM TO MAKE SURE SHE WAS OKAY..he just dropped them off, and left. D14 said that he walked them to the door and said "Have a merry Christmas" and left. OMG...how crazy is this??

So, once they got home I got the scoop that D14 was just sad and it felt weird to be there. She said that H was the one who upset her with the way he was acting. Also said that no one was talking to them and they (both my girls) were just sitting alone in the family room after they opened gifts..even their cousins (just 2 cousins that are exactly their age) didnt talk to them. I wonder if its just awkward for everyone??

I guess that while D was in bathroom crying that both H's bros went in to talk to her and told her she didnt need to miss her mom because she had family there that loved her. She resonded that they dont even know her. Now, rude as it may sound, she is correct. Not one of these family members has contacted or reached out to my kids since H left...so they feel abandoned by them all, which made them feel strange being there tonight. I guess then H went into Bathroom (after he was crying on the couch with his head in his hands) and asked if she wanted to go home and that is when they left.

On the way home, when her attack started, he was screaming at her "what the fu*k is your problem?" and "what the hell is wrong with you?" and yelling that he wasnt taking any blame for this incident. Also yelled that He bet that she wouldnt act like this at my familys house. This is when D11 texted me that she was scared and this didnt help D14 calm down either. He yelled that he didnt want to listen to her crying the whole way home.

I am appalled..I just cannot believe that this is what transpired tonight. Once I got home, she calmed down and was actually able to laugh tonight once she felt better. She said that she cannot believe that dad was so mean and that he did nothing to help calm her. I am pretty upset about this. I need to be able to trust that he can help them through these hard times, not yell at them. I think he was so concerned about what his family will think, that he was angry instead of compassionate. THIS IS NOT THE MAN I MARRIED AND HAVE KNOWN FOR THE PAST 18 YEARS....