My wife wants to separate

[labug]

Cheating, parasitic, adulterous wives do not respond to appeals or "reason".

I always wonder why someone would want to be married to someone they describe in that way.

So SM34, you snooped and you found out a bunch of stuff that you can really do nothing about. I assume you want to stay married to your W? If your W doesn't want to listen to those friends, she won't. We often seek out people who validate our decisions rather than challenge us when in the midst of a crisis.

And you don't know that the woman is influencing your W, you only know that she is talking to your W.

It is the truth that all you can do is work on you. Figure out who it is you want to show the world and work to get there.

Allow your W to be who she is.