Last year (about 4 months after he moved out) H spent Xmas eve and day with us.
This year, even though he's maintained almost daily contact via the kids, H has not mentioned anything about being with us for Xmas - he's not even said when he'll give the kids their presents.
Xmas in our house was one tradition after another - I am big on that. How he can bare to miss all of this with the kids, I just don't know. Just goes to show how deep their crisis must be, I suppose.... These days it makes me feel sorry for him, more than anything.
Last night, as the kids and I sat down with our lebkuchen to watch 'Christmas Vacation' for the 15th time - and we still laughed together - i realised that we were OK.
You will get through this - you are definitely brave enough - and things WILL get better.
