My wife wants to separate

[GH31]

HELP! LOL I violated the number one rule in DBing. NO SNOOPING!

The only rules in DB are:

1. Do what works
2. Reject what doesn't work

I snooped extensively in my situation and made the East German Ministerium für Staatssicherheit (Stasi) and Soviet KGB look like amateurs.

I'm not suggesting you do it but I did and I don't regret it. Sure it was traumatising but it's better than having your Mrs take you for an utter idiot.

I cannot believe my perfectly sane and smart wife is falling for this stuff.

There is nothing "perfectly sane" about your wife now. That woman you were married to ceased to exist the moment the affair began.

Right now her brain is flooded with a cocktail of putrid "love chemicals" which will render her incapable of sound judgement, rational thought, care, empathy and personal responsibility until further notice. She won't be "herself" again for some time, possibly a couple of years.

Cheating, parasitic, adulterous wives do not respond to appeals or "reason". They do respond to strategy. Study the the threads of successful men to determine what they did.

Meanwhile get to work on you SM34. Address all of the marital crimes you committed during your marriage and take concrete measures to ensure they're never repeated.