things were showing small signs of improvement with W, initiating hugs, a kiss, talking, texts with kisses etc and an invite to xmas dinner.
On Monday W withdrew invite for xmas dinner. I was ok with that and she wants me to have the kids xmas eve and xmas morning then take them to hers, wacth them open presents she has at hers etc.
Her reason for the withdrawal was that she feels like we should be moving on and xmas dinner together would not feel right as we would not be doing this every year etc etc. These comments knocked me back but I did'nt show it.
She had been in more pursuit mode until Monday, invites me in for drinkl and a chat when I pick S up, sending me texts etc. The other week she initiated a small kiss too. I think inadvertently I may have been hooked and she is distancing again.
Things are going better than I expected at this stage but this week feels like a slight set back.
My PMA continues albeit I have had a few down moments this week mainly because of the fear of her pulling back again. I have found myself this week thinking about W more than I have in the last month.
She continues to cry everytime I drop S things off on Monday and she still wants a hug before I leave. She has even commented that its hard (being separated) but I suspect the tears are more guilt.
The positives with W prior to this week took my by surprise and when I reflect they knocked me off my strategy. In hindsight it looks like classic pursuit and distance but I had not expected W to go into pursuit so quick after moving out. Does anyone have any thoughts on this as I am still not comfortable with the pursuit/distance side of DBing. Am I confusing this with guilt on her part?
I continue onwards and believe that S was the best thing for our sitch. But I could use some advice on strategy going forwards. My thought now is to go back to being completely dim during the week but making the most of the time when I saw her during drop offs/pick ups which seemed to work.
