Main Goals: 1) Rebuild his trust in me, be consistent with 180's is necessary for that.
2) Provide emotional intimacy down the road, if R progresses, without the demanding of anything back-consciously or subconsciously.
3)Be in exactly the same place whether we reconcile or not.
As to training, I told H that I would like D to have a full day but knew he wanted to leave at lunch. Said S would be happy to only ski 1/2 day, but since D missed one day last week and today, that I would like her to ski a full day. So I said that I had asked if some friends would drop her off, if it was okay with him. He said sure and I said should I make her a lunch (thereby taking responsibility for the change in plans...)and I get to do that too...
I think I handled it well, even though I am a bit pissed because he was supposed to have then full day.....
