My wife wants to separate

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HELP! LOL I violated the number one rule in DBing. NO SNOOPING!

I looked through W messages on her phone but not for OM convo. I know he is lame as hell so I don't exhaust any energy or thought to him, What I was concerned with was what my W best friend (at the moment. Her real best friend lives in another state and does not approve of W decision AT ALL). As a refresher, her "best friend" here in town is actually OM's sister in law!

Anyway, the convo with her bestie was as follows:

Friend: Did you start the divorce?
Wife: I spoke to H about it but he says he is not ready and I don't want to disrespect him.
Friend: Well you know you can start it yourself if you want to be with OM and not H/.
Wife: Yes but I cant afford to right now.
Friend: Why? Money?
Wife: Well that too. But mostly for my daughter.
Friend: Are you still going to do MC?
Wife: I think so even though I think there is no point.
Friend: Yes there is no point.

Another day wife messaging friend from OM house 1.5 hours away from our house:

Friend: Are you at OM house?
Wife: Yes
Friend: Does husband know?
Wife: Yes I would never lie to him about it
Friend: Right
Wife: I feel so bad though that he has to take care of our daughter on his own.
Friend: Well he wouldn't have had to if he took care of his marriage.

This is exactly what I suspected. Her friend is egging her on with this whole thing. Even when my W has a slight doubt or guilt she is telling her not to, because your H should have taken care of you when he could.


Wife: "OM and I are perfect for each other! I know what you are going to say, its only been two weeks
Friend: No I was going to say you guys are perfect for each other. He will take good care of you.

So her best friend has found the perfect woman for her brother in law and is pushing her into it and removing any doubts she might be having. Of course I know that this relationshipp is not going to last. This guy has no idea what he has gotten himself into! My wife is high maintenance and has expensive taste. She thinnks it won't be an issue but I know it will. Plus she told me she cant orgasm anymore because of her Zoloft meds. That is a relationship headin for disaster.

On my way to work after reading this, I had to laugh to myself about this whole situation. I cannot believe my perfectly sane and smart wife is falling for this stuff. She knows better than that. She is one of the smartest peoplle I have known when it comes to seeing through people. Not this time though. He promised her he would move to our town and get a job here, and leave his two kids in his old town. He promised to get a second job, he promised he would take care of her expenses. One month later none of that is happening.