Yes, I shake my head sometimes that even tho the marriage crumbled, the kids have turned out strong. We've had lots of interaction with the mental health community due to S20s diagnosis and have always made use of those resources when needed. I have no excuse for not seeking treatment earlier
Yes, we are able to talk but I had to change from the person trying to get them to talk and then giving them solutions to a "support structure" always in the background but there to listen without judgment when the need arises, allowing them to work out their solutions.
It's interesting that the breakup of my marriage has improved all my R.
I think from our cross posts on each other's threads, we have a lot in common personality wise. Though I am a newbie, and still struggle to make those changes everyday, I am seeing my Rs improve with my kids and my friends. I try to listen a little harder and not judge so quickly.
I am becoming more and more of a believer in everything happens for a reason. Sure we cold have maybe saved our marriages a long time ago if we had done things differently. But the opportunity for introspection and growth would not have been forced to occur I think. And that is a gift too.
