Last night D had her concert, and H and I went .. Very pleasant, kid talk, schedule talk, comments on concert. One thing I noticed about H is that he made no complaints about length of concert or any of the acts that were a little ear straining or looked at all put out. When D has had things like this at school or whatever, there have always been comments. I really liked that about him last night. I went in with the mind that I would smile and enjoy every last kid who had the guts to get up on that stage and perform their heart out whether or not the key in which they sang was an actual known one lol! I also made myself a promise not to criticize D when she said, " not that great, huh." She went on to say "oh I can tell by Moms face..,".
I replied" I am so very proud of you D. I cannot believe you have the guts to get up and perform in front of all these people. That is amazing"
So, practicing my 180, where I would criticize before, I found something to praise instead.
Last night, H was off to SILs bar/resto to meet up with nephew and say hi. A band was playing and although it would have been nice to see them, I thought I wouldn't go. Then, one of y friends, who was also at concert, said she and H were singing there as well tonight and I shouLd come.
So, I told H the story and asked if he minded if I went to see friend sing. He said of course not.
Got there, and one of my best friends was there with husband. Thank goodness because I was not sure who I would hang with and didn't necessarily want to hang with H ( even though I wanted to, if that makes sense).
Well, a funny thing happened, although I was aware of him on and off during the few hours, I found myself forgetting he was there. More of my friends showed up and we had a great time.
I may have gone with the intention of seeing my friend sing and perhaps showing I am capable of what? Having a good time too? Not too sure, but the cool thing it wasn't to say" ha,ha look at the great time I am having" simply because I did not know friends would be there. That I ended up having such a good time was a bonus.
So H leaves before me, comes over to tell friend to take care of me tomorrow at dinner, kisses friend and me goodbye and is very touchy with me?..as he leaves I just let my fingers trail a little out of his and say goodbye.
I leave shortly after because my friend will give me a ride. I find I cannot drink any alcohol at this weight lol! She agrees H was particularly touchy as well.
I get home and thank H by text for some food he brought because I am eating it lol...starving!!
He replies with a few things:
All the guys now know I am single, so to watch out. Me: that gene pool has been peed in one too many times
The town is mine ( basically he has no friends here is what he is saying, no one will talk with him) Me: then I see you a family (his all live here) and raise you a bar (his sister runs the local bar as I have said and he is always welcome there and the employees are more sympatico i think, with him, even though I also work there)
He texts back lol and says New Year's Eve is also mine out here, since other activity group of friends are not quite ready to welcome him back yet. Me: I didn't reply, blatant pity grab.
Then he goes on to say he is cutting day with kids tomorrow short.. He is probably heading back to see gf, I know he is spending Xmas eve in city, most likely with her. However, he is then cutting Ds training short and she misses today as well due to H s family dinner. So I am going to let him know that I think D should train full day tomorrow and since I work I can make arrangements for someone else to bring her home.
I think this half day thing is a feel sorry for myself, must run back to city and GF where I am happy and not conflicted.
I will remain pleasant, happy and will speak to him when he comes for D today ( she is helping cook) about her training tomorrow. This is a get out of Dodge manoeuvre and that is fine. But to impact Ds training is not cool with me.
That's it. That's my day. GAL tonight, work tomorrow, cookies and little Xmas eve dinner chez moi with kids, and I am almost through my first Christmas.
