Cake-Eating..I just don't understand

[rosesarered]

I believe my husband started his midlife crises in Spring 2011. He was unhappy but didn’t really talk about it. He seemed angry all the time, especially at me and the kids. We have 2 boys –ages 6 and 8. He started complaining of stomach issues, he started working out and eating healthy food but became obsessed about it. In Nov 2011, he finally told me he was unhappy with me and gave me a list of reasons. So I took this as a wakeup call and pretty much started to focus on our marriage. All the things he complained about, I changed. Then in March of 2012, he gave me the famous line, I love you but not in love with you. I have never felt so rejected in my life. Especially after I thought things were getting better between us. He told me he was thinking about divorce and started to call some lawyers to learn the process. He also learned that we have to be separated a year before we can file because we have children.
So we both started IC and MC for a few months. Then in May, he bought a townhouse and moved out in July. This is when I started to read about MLC, and I realized that this was his journey and not about me.

I learned to detach. It is one of the hardest things I have had to learn to do. He doesn’t want to tell the kids truth. He told the boys that he was moving closer to work so he could focus on work. Currently, that’s what they believe and they seem to have gotten used to it.
He comes home from work and eats dinner with us almost every night. He also makes dinner most nights. He stays until 9 and then heads over to the townhouse, 5 min away. This is where he sleeps. He has furnished the entire house there. He recently bought a new car, its on order, a little sports car.

After months of not bringing up our relationship, at one point in October, he told me that the separation has been good, and that he has forgiven me for 2 of the 4 things that he was mad about. But that he is working through the other 2 issues. He claims that I took him for granted and he is not happy about the money we spent visiting my parents who live in Europe over the past 12 years. They would pay for most of our trip, but we would contribute sometimes.

Since that talk, we haven't talked much about the relationship until recently. I slipped up and brought up that I can't live like this forever. I am on an emotional roller coaster and its really hard. He just said that we would talk soon but wasnt ready to go into that night. This was last week. I haven't brought it up since.

I feel like we have become friends again. We talk and text through out the day. He comes home for dinner every night and leaves at 9. Its confusing to me and the kids. We also spend all weekend together doing things as a family. We are also spending christmas eve together. In fact, he asked me to invite our neighbor friends over to his place to see Santa on Christmas eve. His neighborhood is having an event. Then we are going to another neighbors party, just like old times. On Christmas, we are going to his Aunts house.

I just keep acting as if everything is ok. Its just weird that he runs away each night. Does he really think its ok to continue doing this, its been 6 months.