Geez - i'm so sorry dawn you're having to deal with this junk. it is a tough one- for want of personal knowledge- i'm thinking maybe tsquare is right. what else would it be or could it be?
the bit about deciding if he's making right decision for next 20 years... and wanting to keep all options open.
my h is all about options- no guts and wants "it all". i feel a bit hopeless saying that out loud- he knows he can "scare me" back when threatening the very roof over my head- so far I shut up- it's no guarantee and of course i feel like a worm- but then if i could just decide one way or other and get job and say goodbye- i wouldn't be such a jerk.
good for you and your "stand & guts". it takes courage to face it head on- maybe your h is gets your message that you're no pushover and it's scaring him. (then he panics & gets icky guy?) trapped rat sort of and scared for himself & his happiness?
honestly- the two-guys in one thing is creepy and if the tough guy digs in his heels - short of calilng the cops (and i don't know if you can even have them lug him away because he's owner too - rite?) so has right to be there if wants to be?
i get sometimes a modified (watered down) version of that- so far i avoid talking about r - and thus don't "call out" bad guy. i suspect he's still in there tho-
i don't know what next. my prayers are with ya- i got nothin - i'm here if you feel like blowing off steam- good luck - .
