Please Help Me

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Hi there, really hoping someone can help me as I'm truly at my witts end...

Ten days ago - just 1 day after my Wife's 39th Birthday she told me she no longer loved me, or is attracted too me in any way - and she asked to split up. (She told she has felt like this for years - we have been married 10 years)

I was, and am devastated - we have a 8 year old Son and I desperately want to keep my marriage (and family) together. I know with 100% certainty she's not cheating on me (I've checked).

I have never cheated on her but have been guilty of letting the marriage coast along...

I have pleaded with her to try again - to save our marriage - but she just says she is not in love with me - and won't be on love with me again...

We have scheduled a session with a marriage counsellor on the 8th Jan - I want to go to save our marriage - she wants to go it seems to find an amicable ending...

I have tried "wooing' her and being the perfect husband - but it just hasn't worked...

Last night I was tired and upset so I finally admitted defeat too her and told her I'd look for somewhere else to live. She broke down "I can't afford this house on my own", "I hate myself so much for doing this" etc etc - I asked her again to try and work on our marriage... but no...

She went out early this morning on the school run, and when she returned, although still upset and shaken up - she is full of me finding my own place, splitting the bank account and sorting out whom will have our Son and when...

I'm devastated - is this really it? Should I just walk away now?

Any help would be very much appreciated - i have never felt so low.