Well, from what you have written, his bluff is that when push comes to shove, you will back down, and he can have both (at least try to have both). OR, he is testing the crap out of you to see IF you will fight, that he matters enough to you that you will fight to keep him. All this on top of the mlc confusion, replay, etc.
Most people want to keep both/all options available, we hate to have to decide and live with the nagging "what ifs" regarding the closed doors, the "what might-have-beens"...so H right now seems to want both, and if he HAS to decide, he wants to be as sure as possible that he makes the right choice, since we ain't getting younger ya know...his testing is trying (in a weird way) to assure him that the "home-body man" will be the right choice 20 years from now. This is just my take on this, I am being tested I think as well...since W has questioned being with me for the next 20 as she struggles with aging, emptying nest, menopause, etc.
Sorry to ramble on like this, I just got thinking....
In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus
Uncertainty is the very condition which impels people to unfold their powers.-Eric Fromm
