Yes, I read the 180 thread today. I can't say that I got much from it. The first post pretty much said it all. I found that many posts after that were going contrary to what the 180 is about - at least how I perceive it. The 180 is for me, not her, or even us. Many posts there spoke of how the partner didn't notice or noticed but doubted. I understand their motives, believe me, I do, but I'm beginning to shift a little. To expand - I have shared a lot of my new goals and the changes is how I am living my life. I would guess that is what doing a 180 is all about. Now, my shift, is that my motive is slowly changing from doing it for the potential us to doing it for me. Now,to be clear, I am not becoming some powerful new me that no longer loves her, no longer wants to be with her, no longer wants to hope or have faith that it can't happen again. I am just starting to admit to myself that I have no idea how that would happen. I have no idea what to do, if there is anything I can do, to move that process along and know that I really shouldn't do it that way anyway. I came across a post that talked about not acting towards an end goal. I think the general idea goes along with the running a marathon analogy - if your goal is getting across the finish line that is 20 miles away you'll never make it, just aim to make it to the next mile marker... I didn't loose her because I didn't pay enough attention to her, I lost her because pay enough attention to me. Thus the 180. Am I getting anywhere with this?
