hi sb - I've been thinking a bit of your situation and I haven't had a chance to catch up on all the posts, I'm sorry to hear things are still do tough.
I agree with the idea that your daughter needs to put boundaries up with her father immediately. Something that might help is to give your daughter a bit of guidance on how to do it.
So when he I appropriately texts or she feels overwhelmed she can establish a code with him, like just a short series of letters to him so he knows HE is crossing a line. Something like tmi or nn (not now) or have her come up with her own.
Have you had a chance to talk more about her drug use and sexual activity? You don't have to post it here but thin how tempting it would be to check out for her under this stress. Sorry it's this way for now.
If anything, the more he whines the more she will learn through experience on how to deal with him...and that not necessarily a bad thing. Good luck!
