Stuck between a hard place and the biggest rock.

[Big Bruce]

Hi,
I agree with the policy of honesty, and I am grateful for people slapping me awake. But Mr. Bond, apart from calling me arrogant, what are the practical steps I must take in my situation to improve things?

I started reading the Marriage Builders site, and also have ordered "Hold me tight" since it's been recommended by Bustorama. I also did his exercice, of listing all the ways I have offended and been negligent to my W. This is powerful, because it causes me to see the R in a new way. Also, it makes me communicate differently, putting the emphasis on W's emotionnal needs, on her hurt rather than mine.

Having said that, I'm not a machine, and as much as I want to detach and not pity me, I hurt too. I am impatient and want to see results, which is difficult to refrain. Here's all the difficulty I suppose.

I gave the Christmas card to W (S didn't put anything in it, I don't get to spend time with him). As I thought, she gave me zilch. I hate to be right sometimes.

As I write this, I'm waiting for the Taxi to the airport. Two weeks of backing off is a little too much. Maybe Skype ont he 25th and 31st dec? What you guys think my "frequency" should be while away?
Do I disclose lots, or not tell her anything?

Thank you for your wise advice.
Merry Christmas,
B.