I do have to say I truly have not been talking about her at all. I do my best to keep to myself and talk about what i have been doing and how they have been.
I'm glad to here this.
I agree with EO and UF... W's anger is all on her. Don't allow this to affect your happiness... separate yourself from her feelings. You are not responsible for them.
Regarding the gifts I'm starting to think you should just save your money. Give to those in your life that appreciate it. Or better still, those in need.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl