I posted this a little bit ago. Just bumping it up. I guess it's a good reference to start writing 180s what you did to contribute to the marriage.
My inability to control my emotions. My tone of voice and defensiveness. Loosing hope of trying to fix key issues through communication and ultimately trying to control H instead. How stupid could I have been? Carrying on over someone not spending time with you, will only make them want to spend even less time with you. Going down cheese less tunnels. Too many expectations. Not communicating properly. Eg attacking statements, saying H made me feel a certain way. Not showing enough gratitude to H, Even if I didn't feel I was getting it either. Relying on H for my own happiness. Negative comments. Not seeing the signs or choosing to talk myself out of them being signs. Putting my own needs, wants and desires last. Letting H control me.
M: 29, H: 31 D: 9 S: 8 T: 13 Y M: 9 Y ILYBIDKIILWY 12/09/2012 ~~~~ Worrying does not empty tomorrow of its troubles. ~~~ it Emptys today of its strengths