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[MrBond]

"I'm not going to get into a debate with you because I know the truth. You are just guessing here."

Actually you don't know the "truth". You keep shooting yourself in the foot. Have you ever noticed that your situation has stayed the same? You don't listen.

"I really don't know why you feel the need to be so mean though. I always tell my kids that it's okay to be critical but not mean."

I give out what I'm given. You start challenging me, I challenge you back. Like others have said, you are going to have plenty of people to hold your hand and sympathize. Do you want that or do you want REAL answers?

"I'll hold off on giving advice, if you say so. (it's not like that guy is taking it anyway.)"

I think you need to re-read that statement and apply it to yourself.

"1. Yesterday I ran for a solid 20 min on the treadmill. Oh man it was rough but I did it even though it was slooooooow."

Then keep it up.

"2. My wife went to a happy hour after work and left me with the kids. We ate pizza and played games. It was fun, my little one said he liked spending more time with me. It made me feel good"

Good.

"..even though I am supposed to be responsible for my own happiness."

Again, you don't get it. It's okay to feel happy when your kids are. It shows you've grown with them and that they've missed you and that you may have been an absent parent in the past.

"3. When my wife came home, I acted nice and friendly."

Stop acting and start living nice and friendly.

"4. Because we were talking about the love languages I asked her if she wanted to watch some tv."

I told you that quality time was her language BEFORE things were bad. She doesn't want it from YOU now. She wants it from someone who values her. It's why she wanted quality time from the OM.

"She said no. I also noticed she didn't have her ring. It drove me crazy and I was obsessing about it, but didn't say a word."

That's an improvement.