My wife wants to separate

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James, bear in mind that GH31 and some of the others that have offered their help on my thread are veterans and were successful in getting their wives back. They have done a lot if reading and thinking and understand what goes on in the heads if our walk away wives.

If your wife left or leaves on a bad note, that is all she will remember if life with you. She has to have fond memories of a living and caring husband who loves her unconditionally even when she is hurting you. Then once you show her how much you love her, and then feel she has noticed enough of your changes,you tell her you think she needs to move out or end the relationship with OM because you are hurting too much to maintain a close relationship with her. More than likely she will move out because the dog in their head stops them from seeing that they are only happy with OM because you have been providing her with the unconditional love she needs and that you are the only one who knows her and understands her because of the years you have been together and the kids you share. Then with less contact she will realize that OM does not full the place of her husband. One fight between her and OM which is normal in any relationship at the.begginning and it will start to sink.in that this.person doesn't understand her like you do. They forget the challenges of early relationships, the challenges that you and her have already overcome.years ago. They are blinded by the excitement, the butterflies, the emotions she hasn't had for a long time. They.are just not.thinking.straight. Imagine if she had a disagreement with OM and he lashes out.and.completely disrespected her like you never have. That would cause her to slip into another whirlwind in her head. At.that point she may try to get into.confrontations.with you to try to validate to herself again how she.thinks you are. If you can approach this.calmly and.surprise.her with your reaction, all her preconceived motions of.who.you are become.negated. And OM stops being the better.option. Of course.that is the theory.

Sorry for typos. I am typing.on my phone.