MW, you seem very impatient and quick to anger. I've got to think that if you come off this way on a forum then you may be that times ten in person. When I read your posts I see you constantly posting about trivial things and then there seems to be some expectation that it means something. For example:
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3. When my wife came home, I acted nice and friendly. She brought me a burger.
She came home and you "acted" nice and friendly and she gave you a burger. It means nothing. You should be nice and friendly to her ALL THE TIME. Not just once in a while. Do it week after week, month after month until you don't have to "act" nice and friendly at all, you just are. And the burger wasn't a reward.
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4. Because we were talking about the love languages I asked her if she wanted to watch some tv. She said no.
Again there seems to be some odd undercurrent here, like you're saying "DB'ing and 5LL aren't working" which I do think is what you believe. But again, this is so trivial you shouldn't even be posting it. She said no. So what? Maybe you should turn the TV off and talk to her! And where in the world did you come up with the idea that watching TV has ANYTHING to do with love languages? It's the polar opposite of showing love!
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I also noticed she didn't have her ring. It drove me crazy and I was obsessing about it, but didn't say a word.
You didn't have to, I'm sure she noticed you were crazy and obsessing, which is not helping your sitch at all. Detach. Act "as if" everything is fine even if it isn't. Get out. GAL. Give your W time and space.
I really don't think you want DB'ing to work, your posts sound like you're trying to prove to us that it doesn't work. We tell you to detach, so you leave the house for an hour, return, don't see anything different and then come here complaining that detachment doesn't work. Meanwhile we keep telling you that this takes MONTHS if not YEARS, but it keeps falling on deaf ears. You will not see progress for months. Quit looking for signs, they are not there and you shouldn't expect them to be. Drop your expectations!
